inKind Senior Software Developer interview questions

Talked to a recruiter, then had a q&a with one of the senior swe's and a swe manager. It sounded like an intriguing place to work and I was with it until the 3rd and final round with the VP of engineering, If I didn't know better, to be actively talking me out of wanting to work here. We didn't do a coding exercise, like I was lead to expect. He mainly talked about what the "real deal" was there, specifically said that we want diversity in here but *not at the expense of having the best* (I'm of an underrepresented demo in tech), which uuuh okay that's fine, I'd much rather be judged on merit, but then why again don't you even want to test my development abilities?? He went on to say its "like a family", which I take as a red flag; seems to jibe with some other comments about here, where there is an in group and an out group. It was also advertised as a remote position, but he floated the possibility of having to travel to work in person with the team if performance is a concern for the team?? I left the final interview thinking "what the heck just happened" then I came to the company's page on Glassdoor and it all made more sense.